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Seven things to consider in a gray divorce

If you are over the age of 50 and are considering a divorce, you are not alone. It is becoming increasingly common for couples to divorce in their senior years. According to a study from Bowling Green State University, divorce after the age of 50—otherwise known as “gray divorce”—nearly doubled between the years 1990 and 2010.

When you are considering whether a gray divorce is right for you, there are several important factors to consider.

The importance of co-parenting effectively

When parents divorce in Ohio, it is usually the children who suffer the most. They now have two different households to live in. When parents cannot come together, it has a negative impact on the children who often feel as if they are stuck in the middle. This is not good for anyone. Parents need to work together and learn to co-parent effectively.

One key to co-parenting, according to GoodTherapy.org, is to understand each parent will have to give a little. They cannot both have things their way all the time. Giving up control, especially when it comes to children, can be difficult, but it is necessary. Parents have to trust in each other and that they each have the children's best interests at heart. In addition, it helps to set up boundaries and rules to make parenting in separate households easier and more uniform. When the kids know what to expect, it can lessen the stress on them. It is even better if the rules are the same at each house.

Child custody particulars regarding active military statuses

If you are one of many Ohio residents who also serve our nation's military, you may share the concerns of others regarding potential child custody problems and other issues if you are deployed. Like most parents, it's only natural that you worry about your kids from time to time; such anxiety often escalates for those serving overseas.

Nowadays, it's not uncommon for a service member to deploy two or three times in a single career. If you know this is a possibility and you do your research ahead of time, you may be able to create as smooth as possible of a transition for your children and also protect your parental rights while you're away.

Do the children have input on custody arrangements?

During a divorce, the focus of the court often goes on the children. You and your partner may be worried about dividing assets and the financial aspects of the situation, but in the end, the most important thing is that the children are heard. In Ohio, the court may give the children a chance to speak out when it comes to custody and visitation. This gives them the chance to voice their opinions and gives them some control over the difficult situation.

According to the Ohio State Bar Association, the court does not always listen to the children in a divorce, but it does usually give children a chance to speak if they are old enough. The court will typically focus more on what is best for the children verses their wishes in any situation. However, children may still be given the chance to explain what they want and why they feel that way. This can help the court when making the important decisions involved.

What to do if my spouse become uncooperative during divorce?

If you are contemplating divorce in Ohio, one thing you should give some consideration to is if your spouse becomes uncooperative. Sure, things may seem fine now. You and your partner have talked about ending your relationship but have been on the fence about it for some time. Whatever your reasons are for the delay, it is important for you to consider the possibility of them becoming uncooperative. 

Sometimes divorces do not go the way people plan. For one reason or another, some individuals become mean angry, irrational and determined to do everything possible to be disagreeable. Take some time to review the following steps you should take if your partner becomes uncooperative. 

Lesser-known benefits of joint-custody arrangements

As an Ohio parent who has gone through a legal separation or divorce, you may not, depending on your situation, necessarily want a joint-custody arrangement with your former partner. Going from having your child in your care consistently to only seeing him or her at certain, predetermined times can prove difficult, but you may find some solace in knowing that joint-custody arrangements offer a number of benefits not only for your child, but for you, too.

Per The Spruce, in addition to giving your child time with both parents and helping him or her understand that both parents will continue to provide love and care, joint-custody arrangements can also give you a chance to rebuild and reorganize your own life, post-split. For example, maybe you always wanted to go back to school, or dedicate more time to your business or career. Having joint custody with your ex frees up more time for you to pursue the things you enjoy, and the things that make you a better, more complete person on your own.

Back to school custody issues

As the school gets underway in Ohio, divorced parents may find the stress increases when it comes to co-parenting effectively. The school year brings about many changes and new focuses for the kids and the parents. Getting back into the swing of things and finding a schedule that works can be challenging, especially if children are involved in many extracurricular activities.

The Huffington Post suggests this is a good time for parents to review their parenting plan. It should take into account the changing schedules and the demand for parental involvement in school activities. Kids may decide on a whim to take up a sport or join clubs. They may struggle with a certain subject and need extra help. Things like this are difficult to plan for, so a parenting plan needs to be a bit flexible. Parents should think ahead to what may be needed.

Keep the public and drama out of your divorce

Ending a marriage is a hard thing to go through, there is not doubt about that. But does that mean that your divorce has to be full of drama and your settlement on public display? No, it does not. There is a way for you to keep things private and not drag things out any longer than necessary.

Ever hear of an uncontested divorce? It is not a new concept, though, many Ohio residents struggle to see how uncontested and divorce even fit in the same sentence together. Doesn't every couple fight about property division, the kids and money? Actually, no.

How Facebook, emojis and comment wars can affect your divorce

Who knows what the total hours would be if everyone in Ohio added together the time they spend on Facebook. Whether you use this major social network site for business purposes or simply to keep in touch with your extended family members or old school chums, it's a controversial activity that has substantial numbers of advocates and dissenters. You may be one of many who have love/hate relationships with Facebook. Perhaps you enjoy posting photos or commenting but don' want your time online to take over your life.

Not every Facebook encounter is a happy one. In fact, many people say that information found on the site led to the demise of their marriages. It's such a prominent problem in today's society that there's a new term to describe it known as a Facebook divorce.

How are retirement benefits divided in a divorce?

One of the concerns you may have when getting a divorce in Ohio is what will happen with your retirement accounts. Retirement accounts can often be included as property that is divided when you file for divorce. Private and government retirement accounts can be divided, but Social Security is treated differently. They are considered when making property division rulings.

According to the Ohio State Bar Association, the actual division of accounts depends on when the retirement plans were contributed to. Any part of an account that was accumulated during the marriage is consider a marital asset and will be up for division as an asset. All assets are divided equally between the two of you regardless of who contributed to the account. Generally speaking, you are each entitled to half of the value of each retirement plan. However, courts can decide differently, and if a portion of the account was from before the marriage, it may not be included.

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